Tuesday, July 2, 2019

Humpty Dumpty


July 3, 2019

I feel like I’ve been dropped, like an egg. Cracked open. Messy. And it isn’t just me. It is the United Methodist Church that I love. Pieces everywhere. Like Humpty Dumpty, all the king’s horses and all the king’s men will not be able to put us back together again. And I wonder what is next.

On the one hand, I am delighted that Annual Conferences across the Southeast have spoken boldly against the Traditional Plan. Forty-one of forty-two delegates from the North Carolina Conference are progressives and centrists. We have clearly voted to affirm our belief that Christ’s Table is open to all. We have maintained our conviction that our diversity makes us stronger. We are unified in our belief that the hurtful language around homosexuality in the Book of Discipline needs to be removed. I praise God for this as we now wait and see what will happen at General Conference 2020.

On the other hand, I stepped out of a session of Annual Conference for just a few minutes and saw a colleague of mine talking with two other colleagues. This particular pastor played an important role in shaping my understanding of small group ministries. Years ago he led a workshop that prompted me to visit his church and see his small groups in action. We spoke on several occasions as he shared his knowledge and ideas. His passion for Jesus Christ was evident and I learned a great deal from him. But he didn’t acknowledge me at Annual Conference. I could see the pain on his face – the voting was not going the way he wanted it to. Seeing him made my heart ache. It reminded me of the pain I felt when General Conference 2019 embraced the Traditional Plan. Broken. Cracked open. In pieces on the floor.

John Wesley stated in his General Rules, “First, do no harm.” Well, harm has been done to all. We’ve created winners and losers instead of one body. We have taken steps that will divide us. As I continue to share stories and raise questions, I wonder: How is God inviting us to reach out to those who interpret scripture differently from us? How is God calling us to move forward faithfully, as individuals and as a congregation? How is God working in us to pick up the pieces and create something new?

Tuesday, June 11, 2019

Consensus


June 11, 2019

Annual Conference starts tomorrow. For the next four days Mel Hansen-Holloway and I will be representing Saxapahaw United Methodist Church as we worship, fellowship and conduct the business of the Conference. The business includes adopting future goals, programs and budgets, ordaining clergy, and sharing stories.

Every four years the business also includes voting for General Conference delegates – work we will be doing this year. This is always difficult, but this year it feels especially painful. I have two lists: one includes the names of those clergy and laity who are “fully vetted evangelicals who are in full support of the Traditional Plan;” the other includes the names of those who “believe the Traditional Plan does not reflect the future God desires for us as the body of Christ.” Both lists include people I love and respect – people who deeply love God and live lives of faithful discipleship – people who are kingdom builders. And yet we remain deeply divided on the issue of homosexuality.

Last week our Church Council met to reflect on the things we, as the leadership of the congregation, can all agree on. It quickly became clear that we all long to know Christ and make Christ known, and we long to do this together – embracing our diversity and recognizing that our differences make us stronger. We acknowledged our fear of change and our fear of losing people we love.  We also agreed that we would much rather work toward consensus than take a vote.

Consensus building is based on both participation of all stakeholders and ownership of decisions. It is up to the stakeholders – that means you! – to participate. Consensus is reached when every voice has been heard, every effort has been made to find common ground, and everyone agrees that they can live with whatever is proposed. This is much harder than voting. It also feels so much more faithful.

So I ask: Will you commit to praying for our Annual Conference and for our congregation as we seek to be faithful to the One who loves us and calls us friend?

Friday, June 7, 2019

New Saplings


June 7, 2019

Just a few weeks ago (May 20 – 22, 2019) over 600 United Methodists from Annual Conferences across the United States gathered in Kansas City at Church of the Resurrection[1] for a three-day conference called UMCNext. All of those who gathered were united in their opposition to the Traditional Plan, which retains the church stance that the practice of homosexuality is “incompatible with Christian teaching” and strengthens enforcement of church bans on same-sex weddings and “self-avowed practicing” gay clergy.

The participants who gathered agreed to four commitments:
  • To be passionate followers of Jesus Christ, committed to a Wesleyan vision of Christianity.
  • To resist evil, injustice and oppression in all forms and toward all people and build a church which affirms the full participation of all ages, nations, races, classes, cultures, gender identities, sexual orientations and abilities.[2]
  • To reject the Traditional Plan approved at General Conference 2019 as inconsistent with the gospel of Jesus Christ and resist its implementation.
  • To work to eliminate discriminatory language and the restrictions and penalties in the Book of Discipline regarding LGBTQ individuals.

This meeting is just one of many similar meetings that are happening across the United Methodist Church as we seek a faithful way forward. I admit that I was hoping for something more than these four commitments. I’m ready for some clarity. I want a plan.

Rev. Tyler Sit, the openly gay founding pastor of New City Church in Minneapolis, and a participant in the UMCNext Conference, likened what happened at the 2019 special General Conference to a giant, old tree that has fallen in a forest, leading to new saplings starting to grow and reach for the light.[3] I love this image of new life coming out of death and decay – it is so full of hope and promise. It also helps me recognize that is too soon to know which of these new saplings will end up thriving – and it may be more than one! So for now we need to nurture all of them, trusting the Holy Spirit to work in us and through us and even in spite of us to show us the faithful way forward.





[1] Adam Hamilton is the lead pastor at Church of the Resurrection, which is the largest United Methodist Church in the United States. Over the years many of us have read books and participated in studies he has written.
[2] If this language sounds familiar it is because these words are very similar to our baptismal vows.
[3] You can learn more about the conference at https://www.umnews.org/en/news/planning-new-directions-for-the-church

Friday, May 31, 2019

The Ostrich


May 31, 2019
 
I was speaking with a dear friend of mine recently who grew up in the Episcopal Church and was very active in her local congregation when dialogue around LGBTQ issues reached a breaking point. We were talking about how uncomfortable these conversations can be and she freely admitted that she stuck her head in the sand, like an ostrich, trusting that the leadership would make the right decision.  When the decision was made and she pulled her head up out of the sand, she discovered that her congregation had chosen the more conservative Anglican Communion. Her own faith journey had led her to a place where she believed in God’s radical inclusion of all people through Jesus Christ and she found herself without a church home.

I share this story because I have this deep sense that many of us just want to stick our heads in the sand, trusting in the leadership of the church. Many of us would rather take a “wait and see” stance instead of doing the difficult work of wrestling with the breadth of scripture and listening closely for the voice of God. Many of us would prefer simple answers and a clear path forward.

But following Jesus has never been simple. Jesus routinely takes us places we would rather not go and calls us to a faith that can move mountains. Jesus calls us to leave our nets and the comforts of home and follow him.

Over the next few months I hope to share news and stories that will help us ask difficult questions, confront our fears, and grow in our knowledge and love of God as we seek to be faithful disciples of Jesus Christ in today’s world.

Tuesday, March 19, 2019

The Choice

Based on Isaiah 55.

You are invited.
Come to the feast –
drink in the goodness
eat your fill
be satisfied.
No money needed –
            Just you.
You are invited
just as you are.

On the fence?
Look around.
The world promises
            abundance
            happiness
            satisfaction
            life
And we buy it.
We spend our money.
And we keep spending...
            hoping for more.

There is never enough
            money
            time
            love.
The world’s promises
            do not satisfy.
We still feel
            empty
            inadequate
            malnourished
            dead.
There must be more.

You are invited.
Come and eat what is good –
            Delightful!
Listen carefully. Find           
integrity
goodness
life-nourishing words.
Find Love.

God promises
            sure, solid, enduring love.

There is rich food here –
food for the body
food for the mind
food for the soul
God is here. Emmanuel –
God with us.

Return to the Lord
            choose the feast.
Come as you are. Find
            forgiveness
            community
            grace.

Seem too good to be true?
God’s ways
            are not our ways.
God’s thoughts
            are not our thoughts.

God abundantly pardons.
God fills us with good things.
God loves us.

You are invited.
You are welcome
            at this table.
So come.

Friday, March 8, 2019

The Elephant


How do we name the elephant in the room? I suppose the first step is to have the courage to walk into the room. Right now it feels like I’m in the room all by myself. With the elephant, of course. And there it is, just staring at me with its tiny dark eyes, watching my every move. Maybe it is wondering, just like I am, what I am going to do.

Time passes. The silence is deafening.

And then a friend comes in and I am so thankful for the company. I know my friend can see the elephant, but she chooses to walk around it, acting like it isn’t there. We talk. About health. About work. About life. We even laugh. And then she leaves.

And the elephant is still there. The one we both ignored.

Another friend comes in. This time I am anxious because I know we need to name the elephant, but I fear she, too, will ignore it. Instead she acknowledges that she heard about the elephant and she stops and looks at it for a minute and then turns uncomfortably away.

I thank her for visiting. I am glad for the company. But the elephant is still there.

“Okay, God. I need your help. There is an elephant in the room and no one is talking about it! What am I supposed to do?”

Silence. But this time the silence is different. God is there. I am not alone.

Slowly the answer comes – in the form of a question. Why is it that God so often answers my questions with a question? “Why aren’t you talking about it?”

Honestly: “I don’t know where to begin.”

And then I am reminded of the parable of the four blind men and the elephant. Each blind man describes the one part of the elephant that he touches. Based on their limited experience of the elephant their descriptions are vastly different from one another. The tusk feels nothing like the tail; the ear feels nothing like the foot.

And God says, “Begin with what you feel.”

“Okay...”

I feel like I’ve been blindsided. I feel hurt. I feel uncertain. I feel afraid. I feel so very vulnerable. And, in all honesty, I feel shame. How could I have been so naive?

I feel like we need to talk about the elephant in the room, even though it is painful and so very uncomfortable. And more than that, I need you to support me, even if we disagree about what we see and feel. I’m tired of arguing. I just want to know that I am loved.

And God says, “So do they.”

"Duh."

So here is the invitation: Need to talk about the elephant in the room? If so, come in. Or invite me out, if that is more comfortable. It might be easier if the elephant isn’t staring at us. Let’s talk. Begin with what you feel. I’ll do my best to listen. And maybe, together, with time, we can figure out what to do about the elephant.

Monday, August 21, 2017

Be Like Her!

Sermon from August 20, 2017. For context, read Matthew 15:10-28.


I remember the rise of gangs in Durham. I was a teacher in the Durham Public School system and over the course of several years I watched the culture in our schools change. While gang violence rarely occurred on the school campus, it was hard to miss the signs. These young men were angry and defensive; and clearly the school system wasn’t meeting their needs.

As it became increasingly evident to me that these young men could care less about atoms and molecules and gravity, I found myself asking what they did care about. And they were more than happy to share. They dreamed about having a secure job where they made enough money to live comfortably. They dreamed about having a wife and children and a nice home. I remember one boy saying he wanted a home with a two-car garage and a white picket fence.

In most cases these dreams contrasted sharply with their current existence. Some of these young men were essentially homeless, finding a sofa here or there to sleep on. They didn’t know who their fathers were and their mothers were incarcerated or too high or too busy to care. Others lived in homes that were so small or so crowded that the only place they could be alone was on the toilet. Still others came to school hungry or high. No wonder learning about the Periodic Table and Newton’s Laws were simply not on their radar.

I finally got bold enough to ask some of the boys in my classes why they joined gangs. Across the board the answer came down to wanting a place to belong; a place to feel safe. The boys needed a place where they were respected and valued and treated with dignity; they longed to be seen as fully human. 

All of these young men were African American or Hispanic – they joined gangs like the Bloods and the Crips and the NorteƱos. And they were proud to belong to these brotherhoods. These boys and their stories were one of the reasons I left teaching – the public school system simply could not meet their needs. I felt like my hands were tied – there was so very little I could do. I wondered if maybe the church could help.

Today I see the rise of a new type of gang. These gangs draw in young white men. These gangs are called the Neo-Nazis and the Aryan Brotherhood and the Alt-Right – they are all white supremacist gangs. Sadly, I do not know any of these young men – my paths don’t intersect with this population.
But I wonder if their anger and hatred isn’t fueled by the same dreams and the same needs as the black and Hispanic boys I knew in Durham. Dreams for a better life – the deep desire for a place to belong – and that overwhelming need that all of us share – that need for affirmation and love.

I also recognize that these groups must be stopped. Flying Nazi flags and calling for ethnic cleansing and actively hating the Jews and the African Americans and anyone who does not look like them is pure evil.

As Christians who have promised through our baptismal vows to put an end to evil, injustice and oppression in all its forms, we cannot sit idly by.

That brings me to our gospel lesson today. I find this story of Jesus and the Canaanite woman to be deeply problematic. It is hard to imagine Jesus being silent when a woman is calling for help. It is even harder to wrap my head around Jesus telling her that he “was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel.” In John’s gospel Jesus says, “I am the light of the world” – not of Israel, but of the world. Jesus also says “For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son” – world. And in Luke’s gospel Jesus is nearly thrown off a cliff for affirming that God’s salvation is offered to all – Jew and Gentile alike.

But here – right after Jesus tells his disciples that what comes out of their mouths proceeds from their hearts – here Jesus’ words and actions seem completely out of character.

I wonder if Matthew isn’t calling our bluff. I wonder if Matthew is intentionally portraying Jesus this way just to make us look critically at who we are as the Church today. And by Church I don’t mean just this congregation, or even the United Methodist Church.  I wonder if God isn’t challenging the predominantly white Protestant and Catholic churches across this nation today to really see Jesus through this text.

Imagine being the Canaanite woman in this story – the mother of a child who is tormented by demons. Sadly this doesn’t take much imagination for some of us. Our children are truly tormented by demons like alcohol and drugs, or self-loathing and insecurity. It could be that this woman’s child is tormented by the demon of hatred and racism that seems to be running rampant today.

Do you hear the anguish in her voice as she calls out to Jesus, “Have mercy on me?” Have mercy on me, Lord! My child is tormented by a demon! Have mercy! Unfortunately, too often the Church does exactly what Jesus did in this case – the Church says nothing. He did not answer at all. He just kept walking. My heart breaks for that mother as the Church remains silent.

But the mother is persistent; she doesn’t give up. She cries even more loudly, “Have mercy on me!” And the disciples, the followers of Jesus, urge him to send her away. She’s a disruption. A nuisance. All the Church seems to hear is her shouting – no one seems to hear her pain.

And if this isn’t shocking enough, Jesus then says, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel.” This is the Church in survival mode. This is the Church saying, we need to take care of ourselves. We don’t have enough for anyone else. This is the church operating in scarcity mode. This is the Church that has lost sight of its true calling – we were sent to make disciples of all nations. Just look at Matthew 28. We have been assured that one day people from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and languages, will stand before the throne and before the Lamb, crying out in a loud voice, “Salvation belongs to our God.” See Revelation 7. Jesus was sent to rescue lost sheep everywhere.

Friends, when the Church says, “Send her away, we’ve got to take care of our own,” we need to remember the courage and persistence of the Canaanite woman and go and kneel before our Lord and Maker in the middle of the crowd of naysayers and cry, “Lord, help me.” Lord, help us. We cannot cure our own children without your help. The demons are too strong. The roots of hatred and racism run too deep. Lord, help us.

I really struggle with the fact that in this moment Jesus still doesn’t relent. He responds, “It’s not fair to take the children’s food and throw it to the dogs.” But perhaps this is the only way to rattle the Church out of her complacency. Perhaps it is only when Jesus utters a profoundly dehumanizing and racist comment that we begin to see our own sin. Jesus calls this mother unworthy and I, for one, cry NO! This is not the God I worship. I believe that this mother – and her demonized child – are both beloved children of God created by God in the image of God. I will not accept that label for this foreign woman – this compassionate mother – this astonishing human being.

I love that the mother won’t accept this label either. She persists, “Yes, Lord, yet even the dogs eat the crumbs from their master’s table.” Mothers everywhere are emboldened to lift their voices and cry out on behalf of their children. No one should be left behind. No one should be excluded. Everyone, even the least and the last and the lost, deserve a seat at the Lord’s Table.

Friends, we have been silent for too long. In fact, we have been silent for so long that groups like the Alt Right have come to see Christianity as irrelevant. Are we going to become irrelevant and stand by as white supremacy and racism deny the dignity of each human being? Or are we going to be like the Canaanite woman? She was loud and insistent, she was wise and insightful, she was courageous and persistent. And Jesus – and the Church – need that right now. Jesus and the Church need mothers – and fathers – who will stand up for their children. Jesus and the Church need people just like you and like me to stand up for people everywhere – black, Hispanic, white – Jewish, Muslim, Christian – rich and poor – lost and found. And I know that when we do stand up – for all our children – Jesus will respond, “Great is your faith.”

Brothers and Sisters in Christ, are we going to sit idly by as the Church becomes irrelevant? Or are we going to live into our baptismal vows and accept the freedom and power God gives us to resist evil, injustice, and oppression in whatever forms they present themselves? Are we going to let the demons possess our children? Or are we going to truly put our faith in Jesus Christ and trust in his grace to save us all – and I mean all?

It’s time for us to have the faith of this Canaanite woman. Jesus can and will cast out these demons – if we are willing to be like her. I am ready. Are you?